Begin by noticing whatever is arising in this moment and the manner in which you are relating to your surroundings. Check in with your inner body as well, including your thoughts and emotions. If there is even the slightest trace of unease or emotional suffering, it clearly indicates that you are not in a space of surrender and inner peace. As such, you are attached to an idea of what should or should not be. This attachment can include your critique of the behavior of another person or your unhappiness with a situation or a life challenge.
You might even discover that you are attached to being attached ... and thus, you are unwilling to let go. So often, the tendency is to shift the responsibility for the attachment to the "other" person or situation. This approach keeps the dysfunctional cycle turning and leaves you lost, with no way to grow either emotionally or spirituality.
The question remains: Can you accept everything exactly as it is free of judgment, belief or opinion or are you arguing with the present moment?
The surrendered state is a state of complete nonattachment. Thus, no matter what is happening around you, it is seen and accepted exactly as it is. This surrendered state is also Presence wherein you are one with your God/Self.
~ Cathy Ginter