Tuesday, April 10, 2012

The Treasure

You have heard that every buried treasure has a snake guarding it. Kiss the snake to discover the treasure! ~ Rumi

One of the questions that continuously crops up in my consulting practice is, "How do we know when we have really forgiven someone?"

There is a tendency to intellectualize that we have forgiven when in fact, we have yet to let go whole-heartedly. As a result, all that we accomplish is to rationalize away all of our personal power when it would serve us so much more effectively to face ourselves in the mirror. Moreover, when we superficially forgive someone, there remains a powerful residue of resentment that causes a negative thought stream to arise, seemingly out of nowhere, when we least expect it. If the bitterness is buried deeply enough, the unhealed wound might even play out in a dream. Likewise, those of us who have done shadow work understand that an unresolved issue often exhibits itself in dysfunctional and secretive behavioral patterns that lead to further guilt and shame. Sadly, this approach merely aggravates and delays the forgiveness process.

It is only when we allow the hurt feelings to surface that they can be fully healed in the light of clarity, openness and acceptance. Furthermore, we must be prepared to continue this exercise of meeting ourselves as often as necessary with steadfast patience and undying courage. It is a blessed moment when we grasp that we can only resolve a memory of suffering, conflict or betrayal when we befriend it and completely embrace it. From this vantage point, and with honesty and appreciation, we realize that every life event is a gift. We also discover that the treasure, which the snake is guarding, is our very freedom. Blissfully, the instant that we are willing to kiss the snake, we affirm with our entire being that we have truly released the past once and for all.

6 comments:

Charlotte Brady said...

So simple yet so difficult.
Thank you for your work as administrator for the Ramana Maharshi FB page. I wanted to send you a private FB message but it wasn't allowed. I discovered then we share the same birthday, exactly a decade apart. I would like to invite you to my blog http://www.charlottebrady.com/mdb-blog.html

be blessed

Cathy Ginter said...

Hi Charlotte ~

Yes... sadly, I had to adjust my Facebook settings to only receive messages from "Friends" as I was getting too many spam emails. Your blog looks wonderful, and I look forward to exploring it further. Thank you for sharing the link and feel free to "Friend" me on Facebook.

Joy-full blessings ~ Cathy

Charlotte Brady said...

Thanks, Cathy! I will friend you!

Cathy Ginter said...

Perfect!

Hanzze said...

The Tail of the Snake

We human beings don't want suffering. We want nothing but pleasure. But actually, pleasure is nothing but subtle suffering. Pain is blatant suffering. To put it in simple terms, suffering and pleasure are like a snake. Its head is suffering; its tail is pleasure. Its head contains poison. Its mouth contains poison. If you get near its head, it'll bite you. If you catch hold of its tail it seems safe, but if you hold onto its tail without letting go, it can turn around and bite you just the same. That's because both the head of the snake and the tail of the snake are on the same snake.

Both happiness and sadness come from the same parents: craving and delusion. That's why there are times when you're happy but still restless and ill at ease — even when you've gotten things you like, such as material gain, status, and praise. When you get these things you're happy, but your mind isn't really at peace because there's still the sneaking suspicion that you'll lose them. You're afraid they'll disappear. This fear is the cause that keeps you from being at peace. Sometimes you actually do lose these things and then you really suffer. This means that even though these things are pleasant, suffering lies fermenting in the pleasure. We're simply not aware of it. Just as when we catch hold of a snake: Even though we catch hold of its tail, if we keep holding on without letting go, it can turn around and bite us.

So the head of the snake and the tail of the snake, evil and goodness: These form a circle that keeps turning around. That's why pleasure and pain, good and bad are not the path.

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Cathy Ginter said...

Great sharing... thank you : )