So often, I am asked how we are to forgive what is seemingly unforgivable. I can only relate what works for me in trust that it might guide you into a space of greater peace and wider acceptance as well. I begin with the understanding that all forgiveness arises from the same place; that is, we all want to heal. From this vantage point, I acknowledge that it can be just as challenging to come to terms with the betrayal of a trust or a careless misunderstanding as it is to forgive cruelty and abuse of women and children.
Next, I suggest that we forgive and forgive again.
Still, the ultimate meeting with the most remarkable truth is the recognition that we only need ever forgive ourselves for we are the ones who have forgotten our innocence. And in the seeing of this singular realization, everything is finally washed away like a perfect summer rainstorm. Personally, I love the darkening of the sky, the heavy downpour filled with the deep drum of thunder and the brilliant flashes of lightning, the breaking through of the most magnificent sunlight as it streams through the clouds and at last, the appearance of a spectacular rainbow.
Likewise, in any conflict or struggle, there is a relaxing and a smiling that longs to happen, and happen yet again. So I say: yes, be willing to forgive and forgive again even if it takes a hundred thousand times, forgive again.